Tuesday, August 31, 2010

Destiny

Miss Destiny Elizabeth Ann Beamish

March 10, 2001 - August 31, 2009



I know this blog is all about Miss K and bringing her home, but today's post is all about the big sister that she will have, but never get a chance to meet. Today, it is all about Destiny. One year ago today my sweet baby girl took her last laboured breath, at home surrounded by the ones who loved her best, her Daddy, her Mummy, her little sister, and her Anne.

It has been a whirlwind year since she left us. We have kept ourselves very busy, trying to fill the hole of an abundance of extra time that she has left us with. Some days have been VERY hard, but mostly we send her tons of love each day and quietly miss her. We are awed by the life that she lead, and completely feel that she did everything when and how she wanted including..... moving on.

We have chosen to not do any real formal memorial for her today, mostly because we think it would be nicer to remember her on her birthday, rather then to think about her last day in detail. We hope to be organized enough to do something for her in March with friends and family, but that will depend on when we get home with Miss K, and how things are going. Instead, I am writing here, and Mike has asked that everyone light a candle for our Bubba, say a prayer if you are so inclined, and watch the video that we sent out for Christmas. We thank you all of thinking of us today and send Destiny and us your love. I have no idea how today will feel in the end, but I know that together my little family can get through it.

Tons of love, hugs, and light to all




Our family in early Aug. 2009




Destiny & Daddy early 2009




Destiny & Mummy on her Birthday, March 2008




Destiny welcoming home her baby sister, Nov. 2006




Destiny & Anne loving on each other, August 2009

Monday, August 30, 2010

A Monday Update

We have adoption news to update everyone with!! As of yesterday we are officially finished our PRIDE training and have our certificate, which means that we can finish our homestudy. We wanted to meet with our social worker in order to complete that today or tomorrow, as he is leaving tomorrow for holiday and won't be back until next week. Unfortunately he is STILL waiting for a report that we need. It has almost been 2 months since he requested this report, and he still does not have it.... These people are NOT impressing me, but what else is new with them.

Yesterday I also received an email from the people working for us in Miss K's country to let us know that they have received our first set of paperwork that was sent to them. It now needs to be translated, and then it can be submitted. I don't know how long this takes, but I'm really hoping that it happens quickly. Once it is submitted we should have a better idea of when travel will be possible. And it kind of makes it really official in my mind, once the country has been notified of our intentions.

Today I found a blog written by a family who traveled in Nov/Dec 2009 to adopt their little girl who was at Miss K's orphanage. I found a whole paragraph that the Mom had posted about our little treasure! What an amazing thing to read about your child who you have never even met, from a person who you have never met, about how much they care for them, and how special they think your little one is. I emailed her to let her know that Kameron does have a family working their way to her.

And on the home front, my little girl is growing up! Last night after her "milk cup" before bed, she threw her milk cup in the garbage. Apparently she is a big girl now and doesn't need it anymore. Although we have had a couple of tears about it, she really seems okay with it. I'm very happy with my choice to let her get rid of all of these sorts of things on her own. Interestingly enough, it was EXACTLY 1 year after she rib herself of her soother. I can't believe how big she is getting.

Friday, August 27, 2010

RR has a new web site coming soon

It is 4:30 am and I'm just about to head off to bed for 2 1/2 -3 hours of sleep before my day starts. I have spent the last 5 hours helping to transfer profiles from the current RR web site to the new one that will be coming soon.

The reason that I'm telling all of you this is because I am amazed at how many people there are adopting RR children right now. It's absolutely mind blowing, and wonderful!!! It is so true what so many people have written on their blogs.....There is not a lack of people or families wanting to adopt children, only a lack of funds and knowledge.

Congratulations to everyone on their adoption journey's. I am so very happy for each and everyone of you :-)

Thursday, August 26, 2010

The Week In Review

I have been stranded at home all week without a vehicle, and some how the week still ran away on me. I have absolutely NO idea how it became Thursday already. And even more unbelievable is the fact that I did NOT check the computer at all for almost 2 full days this week. I do have wonderful adoption news...our first set of papers are on their way to the Country as we speak. They were shipped out on Tuesday sometime, I wonder how long it takes FedEx to get stuff to EE?


We finished the first half of our PRIDE training last weekend, and will be there again all this weekend for the second half. Thank goodness this will be the last half. I am very grateful that it is being taught by two wonderful women, but they sure are long days. We did NOT spend the night last weekend, and will not be staying this weekend either. The drive on the weekend down to Steels has been pretty good, and we didn't feel the need to stay a night away from our little one. I am working hard, and holding out hope that our homestudy will be completed by the end of next week and sent to our agency by Friday. If we can pull that off, then our agency will have it by Monday, and it will be submitted to the ministry for approval on Monday or Tuesday. That would be the ideal, and absolutely wonderful. Also it would be accomplishing what we set out to do, which was to complete our homestudy as quickly as possible. Once the ministry has it we are at their mercy, waiting for them to issue approval, which on average takes about 4 weeks. Please send thoughts our way (how ever it is that you send yours) that we receive our approval by the end of September. There is still much to happen after the ministry if finished with it, before it can be submitted to the country, and it MUST be submitted to the country before November 1st.


As for my accomplishments this week, I have written out my lesson plans for the the first unit that my darling and I will be working on in September that will last for six weeks. We have also signed up for Music class, Swimming lessons, a Gym class, and a Library program. We have a very full fall schedule, and I'm very much looking forward to it. Our first unit is Families. On Wednesday my little niece will be joining us. I guess this is it....Home Schooling here we come:-)


And I also have to thank my internet friend, and Miss K's guardian angel Stefanie for blogging about us last week. We are so blessed by her in many ways:)


And also before I go, I have to say that it is SO wonderful to check the RR web site regularly and see all of the little ones who I wondered if they would be a match for our family finding forever families of their own. As sure as I am the Miss K is meant to be our daughter, and as wonderful as it feels to know who we are going to bring home, it is horrible when you realize all of the little ones that you won't be bringing home, that may never have a family and a home or their own. I am still holding out hope that Maggie's family is out there somewhere. I will never stop thinking about her, or sending her love and light and hopefully peace. Luckily she is still listed on the RR web site. They have tons of information on her if you are interested in possibly making her your daughter.......



Thursday, August 19, 2010

Ending the week early

I know, again twice in one day.... Any way this will be the last post for this week. Tomorrow is a busy day, as we are meeting with our social worker early in the morning to work on our homestudy...we have lots to finish up tonight to take to him tomorrow. And then we have to go and pick up Mike's medical report from his doctors, and then drop off paperwork to the bank, and mail the medical to the social worker.

This weekend is our first weekend of PRIDE training, so we won't be around. We are considering leaving our baby overnight for the first time....... I just don't know about that. If we don't then we drop her off super early Saturday morning, get home just in time to put her to bed (hopefully), and then wake her up before she is usually up to drop her off again, and get home late again. If we leave her then she will get to play all day after we drop her off, go to bed on time, and wake up when she's ready, have some quality time with her Grandma, and then see us at bed time..... And we will save ourselves hours of driving, and be able to work on any homework we have.... It make sense, but my heart hurts at the idea of not putting my baby to bed and not being there when she wakes up. Either way, I'll be off line all weekend, and if we're staying over night then I'll be packing everyone up Friday once we finally get home, and writing instructions for Sat & Sun.

I'm looking forward to next week, which should be more balanced.....but that not really likely to happen, is it?

Have a great weekend everyone:)

Good News

Although it is not the exact news that I was looking for, it is news that I have been waiting to hear. We have received an increase in our line of credit, which brings us that much closer to our final goal amount. It is not all of the money, and it is not as much as I was hoping, but it is some money, and it will help greatly.

Please keep sending us all of your love, prayers, and positive thoughts. We truly appreciate each and everyone of them, and hold them all close to our hearts.

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

What a song!

I know, right! Twice in one day! I couldn't resisit though. I was looking through a blog that is advacating for a little girl on RR and the lady had posted this song. If you want to know more about Mila on RR go here http://milawithlove.blogspot.com/

Here's the song. You can listen to it on the blog above.

Keep Changing The World by Mikeschair featuring Lecrae

Something here is wrong
There are children without homes
But we just move along to take care of our own
There's so much suffering just outside our door
A cry so deafening
We just can't ignore
To all the people who are fighting for the broken
All the people who keep holding on to love
All the people who are reaching for the lonely
Keep changing the world
Take a look around
Before the sun goes out
What's lost can still be found
It's not too late now
It only takes one spark to make the fire burn
So reach inside your heart and let this be the start
To all the people who are fighting for the broken
All the people who keep holding on to love
All the people who are reaching for the lonely
Keep changing the world
To all the people who are fighting for the broken
All the people who keep holding on to love
All the people who are reaching for the lonely
Keep changing the world
I know you see the suffering
How they gone recover when people just look over like they don't even notice them
Everyone whose focusing on ending all this hopelessness
You can change the world by changing who the world is hoping in
I see you changing the world
Every boy
Every girl
Step up!
I see the sun coming up
It's a brighter day
Let's show the world that love is a better way
So lend a hand join the fight
'Cause time is ticking away
Keep changing the world
I see the sun coming up
It's a brighter day
Let's show the world that love is a better way
So lend a hand join the fight
'Cause time is ticking away
Keep changing the world
To all the people who are fighting for the broken
All the people who keep holding on to love
All the people who are reaching for the lonely
Keep changing the world

Venting

Okay, so today's post is all about venting.

There are so many children in this world in need of a family of their own. Yes, some of those children do live right here in Canada. For all those who judge our decision to not adopt a Canadian child at this time, please look in to adopt through your local CAS.

For me the idea of adoption is not a hard one to understand or get used to. Anyone who actually knows me, will know that it makes ABSOLUTELY NO DIFFERENCE to me if a person is of my blood to be part of my family. Nor does a child need to be grown within me to be mine. Anyone who has trouble with these concepts needs to understand that I have the same trouble with theirs. And I am not judging you.

This adoption is a dream come true for us. Something that we have been working on and talking about for many, many years now. Finding our Miss K, and feeling our direction is more then we could have dreamed of. We know with our hearts and souls that this little girl is meant to be with us, and we can't wait to have her home.

This Friday we have our third appointment with our social worker for our homestudy. And then we spend all of this weekend and next in Markham at PRIDE training. An Ontario mandated training required to be able to adopt (and I think foster too now, but we are grandfathered in and don't need it to foster). By the end of the month we will have paid out thousands of dollars toward this adoption already. This too we hear tons of comments and judgements about. If you want to say we are buying a child, whatever, but don't say it to me. A couple of other adopting families have put a twist on it and say that they are paying a ransom to rescue their child....okay that sits slightly better with me. I say, this is what it cost to pay professionals to do their jobs, to adopt a child who needs a home, and keep things legal. The only issue I have with paying this amount of money is that we don't have it just sitting here waiting for something to spend it on. We are working hard trying to find the money so that we incur as little debt as possible. So far, we haven't done too bad. All though those options are becoming quickly depleted, and we are waiting for some answers from other places.

I have absolutely NO interest in begging our friends and family to help us fund our adoption. I have been approached by a few people who have suggested that we fund raise for our adoption, and I know that this is a popular thing to do in the US. I'm not sure how I feel about that, although my gut reaction would be to say "No". I'm not usually someone who asks for help, even when it's needed (unless your name is Roxanne). Please know that this is NOT an advertisement, but a response to peoples emails, messages, and conversations. At this time if someone was wanting to host a fundraiser for us, we would be grateful and would help, but we will not being doing that for ourselves at this time.

I know that it has been some time since I last posted and I'm hoping to keep updating more regularly soon. My mind has been so full, that I haven't been able to get anything out. I hope that this post make sense, and addresses some peoples questions, concerns, and comments. I honestly don't mean to offend anybody, so please don't be.

Love and light to all:)
ooxooxooxooxooxoo